Loss & Grief links to Acceptance

Understanding life changes result in loss and grief

Change - pages 22-23

Grief reactions - page 24

Grief stories (video) - page 24

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Reactions to loss and change

Grief reactions - pages 25-26

‘Normal’ grief reactions (handout) - page 28

Extension activity - page 27

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Reaching out, reaching in

How to help - pages 29-30

Helping yourself, helping a friend (handout) - pages 31-32

Helping a friend - page 30

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Helping friends

Types of support - pages 33-34

Giving advice - page 34

Dear Dr Wright letters (handout) - page 36

Seeking help - page 35

Newspaper article (handout) - page 37

What to say - page 35

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Feelings and fears

Different fears - page 38

Similarities & differences in our fears (worksheet) - page 40

Ranking fears - page 39

My fear (worksheet) - page 41

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Grief in a zoo community: funerals and grief rituals

Exploring grief - page 42

Newspaper article (handout) - page 44

Funerals - page 43

Newspaper article (handout) - page 45

Research - page 43

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Loss: a universal experience

Change and loss - page 46

Feelings - page 47

Categories of loss (handout) - page 48

Holmes-Rahe survey of loss (worksheet) - page 49 

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Grief is normal

Change and stress - page 50

‘Normal’ grief reactions (handout) - page 52

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Understanding loss in response to death
 

Different deaths - pages 53-54

Determinants of grief - page 54

Determinants of grief (student handout) - page 55

Determinants of grief (teacher information) - page 56

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Supporting grieving friends and relatives
(2 lessons)

Grief reactions - page 57

Masculine and feminine grieving patterns - pages 58-59

Unhelpful strategies (handout) - page 60

Guidelines for being a supportive person (handout) - page 61

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Controversial issues: the way people die

Defining euthanasia - page 62

Discussion and sample questions - page 63

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.

Responding to help seeking 

A friend in need - page 65

What can you do to help? - pages 66-67

Getting help - page 67

A friend might need help when… (OHT) - page 68

What can you do to help? (handout) - page 69

2.1 Individual uniqueness: 

Each person should acknowledge his or her own uniqueness and be encouraged to develop self-respect and dignity.

2.2 Personal meaning: 

Each person should develop a sense of personal meaning and identity, and be encouraged to reflect critically on the ways in which that occurs.

2.3 Ethical behaviour and responsibility:

Each person has freedom of will, is responsible for his or her own conduct and should be encouraged to develop discernment on ethical issues and to recognise the need for truthfulness and integrity.

2.4 Openness to learning: 

Each person should welcome opportunities for learning from all sources, including the formal study of the learned disciplines; from investigations, contemplation and the cultural tradition; and from people of divergent views.

2.5 Initiative and enterprise: 

Each person should have the confidence to show initiative and be enterprising in his or her approach to life’s challenges.